Secret No More

Monday, July 30, 2012 196 0

Dress (worn as top): All Saints. Skirt: Topshop. Shoes: Kate Spade (or here). Handbag: Chanel. Necklace: Gift from my Dad. Bracelet: Gift from a friend. Ring: Ardene. Sunglasses: Chanel.

 

After 3 months of keeping this “dirty little secret”, I finally told a few of my closest friends about this blog.   Before Friday, the only person who knew was my Man since he was suckered into being my photographer.  I’m a modest, shy person who breaks into a sweat at the thought of any attention or focus on me, so I was extremely hesitant to tell anyone about the fact that I’m taking pictures of myself and posting them on the internet for all to judge and criticize.  Well, of course I should have known that my friends are amazing, and could not have been more supportive.  I’m still not ready to tell everyone, nor do I think people really care, but this was a big step for me personally.  A question for other bloggers. . .are you open about your blog or do you keep it a secret also?

 

 

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  • CRAVING FOR BARNEYS
    July 30, 2012

    I’ve just discovered your blog and love it! You’re so classy!

    Love your shoes!

    http://cravingforbarneys.com

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thanks you so much, that is very sweet!

  • ttea
    July 30, 2012

    I love your top, the beading detail is perfect. Also, the skirt and top together give a really nice hourglass silhouette that you don’t see very often anymore.
    Thanks for leaving a comment on my blog, I left a reply to it if you want to take a look.

    http://fashionananthropologicalpointofview.blogspot.ca/

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thanks so much! I’m very much a curvy girl, so even non-hour glass silhouettes will look curvy on me! 🙂

  • Kendall
    July 30, 2012

    I completely know what you mean. I still remember the first time I sent the link out to people who actually knew me, and it was incredibly intimidating. But quickly you realize those who really care about you are so excited for you as long as you are having fun, and anyone who has something negative to say is probably struggling with something in their own life that doesn’t allow them to be happy/supportive of you.
    Keep up the great work, and by the way, those shoes are even better on!
    xo K
    http://www.lilieslattesandlace.com

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      So true! Thank you so much for your incredible support Kendall!

  • Audrey Allure
    July 30, 2012

    Gorgeous top!

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thanks Audrey!

  • Red Tag Chic L.A.
    July 30, 2012

    haha…I thought I was the only one who preferred keeping it a secret at the start. But my daughter insisted otherwise…BTW, love the total look BUT the shoes are so drool worthy!!!

    Rebecca
    http://www.redtagchiclosangeles.com

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Awww, thanks Rebecca! I must admit I’m obsessed with these shoes!

  • Brenna
    July 30, 2012

    You have nothing to hide! Your blog is great. And I know what you mean, I went through the same thing a couple months back. By the way, the pictures are especially stunning today!

    XoXo Brenna at http://www.chicstreetstyle.me

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thanks so much Brenna! You are very sweet!

  • Sarah
    July 30, 2012

    Actually, my friends were the first people I told about my blog. After I did the first few posts, I put a link on Facebook. If it weren’t for all my friends who compliment me on what I wear, I probably wouldn’t have thought to start a style blog in the first place. Once I got good feedback from friends, it gave me more confidence to put my blog out there for strangers to see!
    Anyway, I don’t know why you would be shy about how awesome you look. I’m in love with those shoes, btw.

    Sarah’s Real Life

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thanks Sarah! I’m definitely not ready to post it on my Facebook page, but I do feel like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders by telling people.

  • Tina Telli
    July 30, 2012

    wowwwwww lovely outfit!!

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thanks so much Tina!

  • Nancie
    July 30, 2012

    Looking good, love top. I told everyone about my blog once it was up
    NANCIEMWAI.COM

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thanks Nancie! I wish I was that confident! 🙂

  • Fiftyfabulous
    July 30, 2012

    Adore the skater skirt, very pretty look!

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thank you so much!

  • Amy
    July 30, 2012

    Love the outfit Jenny, the dress as a top! So cute!

    I also keep my blog a secret, I don’t want my friends knowing my little secret yet as well. I feel you!

    xo Amy

    Leopard and Lillies

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      So glad to know I’m not alone. Thanks so much Amy!

  • Sandy a la Mode
    July 30, 2012

    i am soo jealous!! i have been wanting those shoes forever… but don’t really have the money to get them. 🙁 i love kate spade… *sigh*! i just did a post about a dress i want from there too hehe!!

    btw, i used to be secret about my blog but i have learned to have no shame! i love telling people about it now! 🙂

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thanks so much Sandy! I was so lucky and actually used department store credit card points to buy these adorable Kate Spade heels, so it was almost like they were free! LOVED the dress you wanted also, but the skirt you found is a perfect substitute!

  • Erica via glamBLOUSE
    July 30, 2012

    Those shoes are so fierce I can’t stand it! They are truly amazing and its been awhile since I’ve seen a pair of heels that I had to have. I hope to have the jumbo flap in nude and black one day – just have to exercise some patience.

    Giveaway on my blog! I’d love for you to check it out!
    http://glamblouse.blogspot.com/2012/07/glamblouse-giveaway.html

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Ha ha, thanks so much Erica! I agree, I was so excited to get these shoes! I will definitely be wearing these Kate Spades a lot!

  • Erica via glamBLOUSE
    July 30, 2012

    Side note, I’ve always been open about my blogs and websites. The more supporters the merrier!

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Yes, maybe that’s how I should be looking at it! Thanks Erica! 🙂

  • Always Maylee
    July 30, 2012

    Oh my goodness, you look amazing! I love everything about this outfit. Your top/dress is just so pretty and I totally want your Chanel bag.

    I’ve told my friends and family about my blog, but it’s not something that I openly advertise to others. 🙂

    xo, Yi-chia
    Always Maylee

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thanks so much Yi-chia! I think that will be my approach too. I’ll only share it with those closest to me, but I would definitely never even think of advertising it to people I know.

  • Rachel
    July 30, 2012

    I love your dress!!!!! (worn as a top) It has so many pretty details! And those Kate Spade shoes are LOVELY! 🙂

    xoxo,
    Rachel

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thanks so much Rachel!

  • thehautecookie
    July 30, 2012

    love the top it’s sooo unique, and of course love the chanel it ties everything together perfectly so classy. you look gorg!

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      You are always just so sweet! Thanks so much!

  • Emily
    July 30, 2012

    You have the cutest style. Love the adorable skirt and how you styled it!
    Creamy

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thanks so much Emily!

  • Lindsay
    July 30, 2012

    I also haven’t told any of my friends. My husband has told a few people (wish he hadn’t). For some reason, I don’t want to tell my friends…I don’t want to be judged or have people think I am narcissistic. After all, I am posting pictures online of myself everyday…it’s a little strange if you don’t know of or understand the fashion blogging world. One of my friends found my blog last week and I was so embarrassed…maybe I should just get it out there?

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      That was the exact same as me!!! Nobody close to me is into fashion blogs, so it just seems really strange to tell them that I post pictures of myself online everyday. Thanks so much for sharing this Lindsay!

  • Nic
    July 30, 2012

    Jenny you are just too cute! Firstly, I love this look! I was thinking what a beautiful top and then wondered before I read what you wrote if it might be a dress (because I’m wearing the same type of thing today haha). I see you’re wearing the new fab shoes!

    Secondly, good for you for spilling the beans. Real friends are supportive in all things whether or not they understand or are into the same things. I understand how you feel but most people are secretly envious of others following their dreams and are just scared themselves to take a plunge.

    As for myself, I’m an open book and I love being on stage… Leo’s usually do haha

    xo
    nic
    mymannersandmoxie.com

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Ha ha, thanks so much Nic! You are just so sweet, and I’m so thankful to have your support! Sometimes I definitely wish I could be like you. . .maybe it would be less stressful! 🙂

  • Emily
    July 30, 2012

    Even though my blog does not consist of taking pictures of my outfits, I was also hesitant to tell my friends. Some friends love the blog, some don’t care, and that’s fine! We blog because we have ideas to share and have fun doing it! (* I’ve gotten my friends invloved in a few posts and that was extra fun!)

    You are doing a GREAT job – I bet your friends were truly impressed!

    Emily

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      That is so lovely of you to say! Thanks Emily! I agree, the whole reason I started blogging was because I’m obsessed with fashion blogs, but none of my friends share that same passion. Most of them love fashion, but I live 4 hours away from my closest friends, so I can’t chat with them on a regular basis about it. The real reason I started blogging was to connect with others that share the same love for fashion and blogs, and I have definitely accomplished that! I just can’t believe how supportive complete strangers have been. It’s just so wonderful!

  • Hannah
    July 30, 2012

    First off- So happy to finally see these shoes in action! I have been waiting since you put them on instagram. Second off- I am so the same way. A few of my close friends know about my blog and that is it. I am so shy about it.

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      ha ha, thanks so much Hannah! Don’t worry, you’ll definitely see a lot more of these shoes! Funny, I didn’t take you as one to be shy. You come across as so outgoing on your blog!

  • Shannon
    July 30, 2012

    LOVE your blog!! Just found it through Queen City Style and would love for you to follow mine at http://www.stylishlyeverafter.blogspot.com

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thanks so much Shannon!

  • Shannon
    July 30, 2012

    LOOOOVE it!!

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thanks for visiting and commenting, Shannon!

  • Meredith
    July 30, 2012

    I know exactly how you feel about blogging! I was so shy with mine. I didn’t tell a lot of people and it took me forever to post it on Facebook. When you start blogging, you really make yourself vulnerable, and it’s scary. Once I started telling people about it, I was overwhelmed with the amazing support. Good friends are the best! Your blog is fabulous, so I encourage you to put it out there. This is definitely something to be proud of. You have amazing style. And this shirt proves it! I LOVE it!
    Meredith
    createthatoutfit.com

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thank you so much for writing this Meredith! YES, you do make yourself so vulnerable and really open to criticism (which I’m sure no one likes getting). Thank you so much for your super sweet compliments!

  • 12nasds
    July 30, 2012

    Que tacones taaaan bonitos, te quedan genial!!

    Un besote

    http://12nasdesuenos.blogspot.com.es

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Muchas Gracias!

  • Jess
    July 30, 2012

    First of all – I love those shoes! haha
    Secondly, I’ve told a few friends about it but I also haven’t posted that many outfit posts (though I do have 2 more in the works) – simply because I was a little shy to post photos of myself on the blog, so I understand why you kept it a secret! Thank goodness for great friends though, right? 🙂 This past weekend I was in Seattle visiting my best friend who is now starting a side photography business, and we had so much fun shooting together! There’s nothing like great synergy when doing something that would make you feel self-conscious otherwise. 🙂

    (Sorry for the ramble, haha!)

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Ha ha, thanks so much Jess! I can’t wait to see the photos of your outfits that you took! I agree, I consider myself truly lucky to have such great friends.

  • Katherine
    July 30, 2012

    Love the dress worn as a top! I know what you mean about sharing your secret. It’s kind of scary but exciting at the same time.
    Katherine
    http://www.jagstyle.blogspot.com

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Totally scary, but yes, a little exciting! 🙂 Thanks so much Katherine!

  • Ania
    July 30, 2012

    gorgeous bag 🙂

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thanks so much Ania!

  • amy
    July 30, 2012

    Tomorrow my scheduled post is actually about me keeping things a secret from my friend too! I posted for about two weeks without telling my besties, but then decided to go ahead because I didn’t want them to find out on their own and be hurt that I didn’t trust them to be encouraging. Totally know what you mean though, they probably think Im arrogant and WEIRD. 🙂

    http://coffeebeansandbobbypins.blogspot.com/

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Uh oh, that’s so true! I never saw it from that point of view! I’m now actually glad I told them instead of them finding out another way. Thanks for giving me that perspective!

  • Elena
    July 30, 2012

    I told my friends about the blog at the beginning; some of them were very supportive, some people didn’t take it seriously. Jenny, your blog is amazing and if you have fun doing it you shouldn’t worry about what people think!
    And about this look- BEAUTIFUL- looks like you are wearing a piece of art!
    Xo
    Elena
    http://dcinstyle.com/blog/

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thank you so much Elena! You are so sweet!

  • Zerohearts
    July 30, 2012

    Its ingenious to wear a dress as a top and as usual, this pairing is wonderful 🙂 but how did you keep the lower part of the dress from showing? I’m thinking that to do that for some of my dresses, I have to alter them shorter!
    Congrats for opening up to your friends! I think it’s a great idea and it’s a beautiful blog to share!
    I’ve been writing since 2006 I think! Changed my blog address a few times and the one I have now was since 2008. Throughout then till just 2 months ago, only about 5 people knew about the blog. I felt like It was a little too much for me to handle when I did not know who may be reading what I’m writing.
    The blog was actually something for my friends and family to know what I was up to when I was in USA for about 2 years, on and off.
    So, I reached 30 years old in march and I decided that it’s ok to share my life and the things I enjoy because I’m ok being me. I’m ok to show whoever that may be reading my blog the me that I really am so I opened up my blog to more people and I love being able to comment on others blogs without having to worry about revealing mine. 🙂
    People may judge when they read my blog but it’s fine. I’ll just be me and be glad that I’m having fun being myself 🙂

    We only live once ! Just do it!

    🙂

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thank you so very much!! This dress is very short so I don’t have to worry about it showing at the bottom. I tend to only layer skirts over dresses that are short, just to avoid that problem. Thank you so much for your words of support! I agree that the older I get, the more confident I become. I don’t think I would have had the courage to put myself out there like this a few years ago.

  • Jennifer
    July 30, 2012

    I kind of agree with you. I’ve had mine for about 7 months or so but I don’t tell just anyone about it. But, I’ve found that it actually can be rewarding to talk about it. I mentioned it to my hair stylist this past weekend and now we are thinking of collaborating together…so you never know!

    xoxo
    Jennifer
    http://www.justaddglam.com

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      That’s awesome! Can’t wait to see the collaboration if it works out! You are completely right. I think I will just be very selective with who I tell.

  • Mrs C
    July 30, 2012

    SERIOUSLY, MY NON VIRTUE FRIENDS KNOW LITTLE TO NONE ABOUT MY BLOG.. MAYBE ONE OR TWO KNOWS.. I PREFER IT THIS WAY. YOU LOOK FABULOUS JENNY, THAT MUCH IS NOT A SECRET 🙂

    KISSES FROM :
    A SMALL BLOG WITH A BIG HEART
    MRS JACK OF ALL TRADES DAILY where Fashion and Food collide!
    http://mrsjackofalltradesdaily.blogspot.com/

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Ha ha, thank you so much Mrs C!!!

  • Mary
    July 30, 2012

    i LOVE this outfit Jenny!! Maybe one of my favorites!! By the way, I felt the same way as you about exposing your blog and being a modest person. It was difficult to tell everyone and I actually have some friends that don’t know either! Thanks for sharing…you are great at what you do!

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Awww, thanks so much Mary! So good to know I’m not the only one!

  • Ilse
    July 30, 2012

    Oh! I’m so glad that I’m not alone in this! I haven’t even really told my family I guess I’m afraid of the criticism that I might receive and even then the people that I have told wont subscribe lol ? Neways I love this outfit so classy and chic! Can’t believe that is a dress!

    http://www.Theluxuryrehab.com

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thank you!! I actually told my parents 2 weeks ago, but wouldn’t tell them the blog address because they tell people everything (typical proud parents)! I think it’s about time I tell them, otherwise they might be upset I told others before them. Uh oh! 🙂

  • shea
    July 30, 2012

    Jenny,

    I shared the same thing about sharing my blog with my friends. Only a few of them know until this day and I’ve been Blogging for two years now.

    Your outfit looks great doll I am loving the shoes!!

    http://www.iwouldsorockthis.blogspot.com

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Ha ha, two years is a lot longer than only 3 months! I guess it’s really not that big of a deal that I haven’t told people. Thank you so much for making me feel a little better about this!

  • Inés
    July 30, 2012

    You are doing a beautiful job, and you have your Man support, I think you must be proud of it, because you are brave enough to expose part of yourself in the process and to influence a lot of people showing us your certainties and your insecurities and helping us a lot in the process.

    Big hugs!
    Inés

    SimplyClassyMe.blogspot.com

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thanks so much Ines! My Man is definitely a great support. He always tells me how proud he is of me, and really, that’s all that should matter! 🙂

  • style delights
    July 30, 2012

    wow..just love love love your top and shoes! So gorgeous! Hope you are having a wonderful day!
    -Jyoti
    Style-Delights Blog
    Style-Delights on Bloglovin

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thanks so much Jyoti!

  • pop champagne
    July 30, 2012

    ohh those shoes are SO cute! love the dots, and they go so well with the Chanel bag!

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thanks! These shoes were definitely a great purchase!

  • Jessica Broyles
    July 30, 2012

    I LOVE that top!! (well, dress)

    Psha! Keep a secret!? Me? No way! Everyone has known I had a blog since day one! haha

    http://www.highheelstosneakers.com

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Ha ha ha, thanks Jessica!

  • Addie
    July 30, 2012

    OBSESSED with those chanel sunglasses. and I love that skirt!

    beautiful outfit of the day! keep theses posts comin! : )

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thanks so much Addie, and thanks for visiting!

  • nancy@adore to adorn
    July 30, 2012

    Good for you for “revealing” your “secret.” I have not yet been so brave. I want to…since I feel like I won’t necessarily be “judged” but at the same time. I kind of feel torn since I’m also (like you) shy and rather reserved. So I find it ironic I’m endeavoring in such a public forum in that way. I’m also in the boat that none of my close friends blog like I do so I don’t see the “connection” there either. OR, maybe they do too and we’re all being shy. =)

    Now that I’m rambling…I’ll stop now! =)

    Congrats to you!

    xo,
    nancy

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Totally agree! I think it’s very ironic that I’m putting myself out there like this, when that really is not my personality at all!

  • ML - @20YS
    July 30, 2012

    That’s great! More people know about it, especially your friends and they should!

    You have a Fabulous blog!

    oxo,

    ML
    TWENTY YORK STREET
    Follow @20YS on Twitter : @20YS
    Follow @20YS on Facebook: TWENTY YORK STREET

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thanks you so much! I should really take on that mentality!

  • Clare
    July 30, 2012

    Wow, you and I are completely opposite. I was more worried about strangers and fellow bloggers supporting me rather than my friends. I actually leaned on my friends for support and encouragement, and the followers just happened!

    I think you should be proud of what you have here, you do an amazing job and I always look forward to stopping by to see what you have been wearing. Keep it up, and amaze yourself!

    Clare
    Understated Classics

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Ha ha, it’s funny, I don’t care as much about strangers judging me (although, don’t get me wrong, I still care a great deal). It’s just that I actually care more about people I know criticizing me. People I know will probably lie to me about their opinions, whereas a stranger will either tell me the truth, or will just not visit the blog any longer.

  • Thorunn Ivarsdottir
    July 30, 2012

    IN LOVE with your skirt! seriously, I need it!! and it is so beautiful with that top!! I hope we can follow each other, let me know

    http://www.double-pizzazz.com

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Awww, thanks so much! The skirt is super comfortable too!

  • ola munia
    July 30, 2012

    lovely top. I especially love the delicate and feminine sequins detail that add just enough glam!!
    xxxxo
    ola
    http://www.stylesbyola.com

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thanks so much Ola! It was definitely love at first sight with that dress!

  • Laura @ Twelve by Si
    July 30, 2012

    Love this look, those pumps are so cute! I know how you feel – I still haevn’t actually told anyone I have a blog! I don’t think I’d mind telling people now, but I feel like it’s an awkward thing to bring up randomly, you know? Still waiting for a relevant time to bring it up I guess 🙂

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Ha ha, totally understand! I actually sent my friends an e-mail letting them know what I was doing, that way I didn’t have to tell them in person and feel totally embarrassed!

  • Whitley Hamlin at th
    July 30, 2012

    UNBELIEVABLE!!!!! I was on a quest for those shoes and inadvertently bought the wrong pair!! Mine are sling backs with smaller dots and a larger bow. I love them, but am drooling. Really, over this entire outfit. 10! Bravo!!

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Ha ha, thanks so much Whitley! I do love these shoes, but I’ve seen yours, and those are really fabulous also!

  • Ani
    July 30, 2012

    Jenny, this is one of those wonderful looks, where I can just say WOW. Absolutely breathtaking) Love the delicate and feminine sequined detailing on that shirt paired with that flattering black skirt. Those pumps are such a dream, you look like a princess in them. I told my friends about the blog at the beginning; the minority were/are supportive, which makes me really sad and is disappointing. I am the only one who is really into fashion of my friends and environment so that’s why they dont care so much. It’s so funny, I moved to a 90 habitants village a year ago, so when I take pics totally dolled up in the fields they look at me as if I were gaga. My neighbour just told me she was wondering why the heck I am taking so many pics of myself, letting her know its for my blog she was really excited :-D.
    Jenny, I am truly thankful to have met you and looking forward everyday with such an excitement to see your look of the day. It’s just great to know there is somebody in your age (not talking about children and their learning process hahaha) with the same sense of style :-). Your blog is truly amazing and such an inspiration. I am glad that there is sb like you caring about fashion and beeing supporitve. You shouldn’t worry about what people think as long as you do something with such a passion and have fun doing it :-). Honestly, also I haven’t met you in person I truly feel that you are such a warmhearted, caring and honest person with such a great sense of style. If I would live in Canada I would love to be your friend and exchanging fashion topics and do some shopping hihi :-). Be more confident dear, you can be very proud of yourself :-*. And a great compliment to your supportive man, he does take great pics 🙂

    <3 Ani
    http://www.fleurani.blogspot.de

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Ani, I would just like to say that you have been one of the most supportive people in my life, and we have never even met! 🙂 You are just such a sweet and caring person, and I’m so glad to have met you (in the cyber world). 🙂 I know that if we lived in the same city, we would be in trouble because we would be spending all of our time (and money) shopping! It’s very sad to hear that some of your friends were not supportive, but I’m so glad that others were. I’m sure it would be a funny sight to see you taking pictures and watching your neighbours give you strange looks. Thank you so much Ani!!!