Secret No More

Monday, July 30, 2012 196 0

Dress (worn as top): All Saints. Skirt: Topshop. Shoes: Kate Spade (or here). Handbag: Chanel. Necklace: Gift from my Dad. Bracelet: Gift from a friend. Ring: Ardene. Sunglasses: Chanel.

 

After 3 months of keeping this “dirty little secret”, I finally told a few of my closest friends about this blog.   Before Friday, the only person who knew was my Man since he was suckered into being my photographer.  I’m a modest, shy person who breaks into a sweat at the thought of any attention or focus on me, so I was extremely hesitant to tell anyone about the fact that I’m taking pictures of myself and posting them on the internet for all to judge and criticize.  Well, of course I should have known that my friends are amazing, and could not have been more supportive.  I’m still not ready to tell everyone, nor do I think people really care, but this was a big step for me personally.  A question for other bloggers. . .are you open about your blog or do you keep it a secret also?

 

 

196 Comments
  • Tara
    July 30, 2012

    I can’t decide which I love more, the top (dress) or the shoes! I didn’t tell people for awhile about my blog, but most everyone knows now 🙂

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Ha ha, thanks so much Tara!

  • Jessica
    July 30, 2012

    Oh my gosh those shoes are amazing! The skirt is super cute as well.
    I think I’ve told about 2 of my friends and some family members (but they all live out of state). So yeah, I understand how you feel! I’m still not ready to tell the friends that I see everyday!
    ~Jessica
    http://jeansandateacup.blogspot.com/

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thanks Jessica! Funny, all of my good friends I told live 4 hours away in my hometown.

  • Jess
    July 30, 2012

    first of all, love this outfit (as usual!) and I see what you are saying, it is just easier to have people who don’t really know you or who also are in the blogging world to expose your blog to, thanks how I feel anyway …. having my friends and family like it is just a great little bonus!!
    Jess
    http://www.jesscauseblog.blogspot.com

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Totally agree Jess! Thanks so much!

  • Rachel
    July 30, 2012

    I told my friends right off the bat about my blog, and most were supportive. Some of my friends and family tease me about it, but others have told me they really enjoy reading it. I get nervous about people reading it and judging me too, so I know how you feel 🙂

    Life Unsweetened

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thanks so much Rachel! So glad to know I’m not the only one who gets nervous!

  • Laura
    July 30, 2012

    Your shoes are darling! My friends do know about my blog, but it’s not something we talk about often. I still get a little nervous when I think about people I know logging in to read it!! You are doing an amazing job here and I always look forward to your posts 🙂 xo

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thanks so much Laura! Yes, I agree that this is something I definitely will not talk about often with others.

  • Christel&Hanna
    July 30, 2012

    you look gorgeous, we are madly in love with the skirt!

    <3

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Awww, thanks so much Cristel & Hanna!

  • Martha
    July 30, 2012

    Jenny,
    This is one of my favorite looks on you…the skirt, the shoes and the bag are beyond timeless chic.
    You look amazing.
    As for telling people, yes….we all should be telling our peeps what we do because it is an extension of ourselves…and anyone that loves, respects and appreciates us will want to see what we’re doing on the laptop all the time 😉
    XOXO

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Ha ha, that is so true! Thanks for those encouraging words Martha!

  • Sofia
    July 30, 2012

    You look fabulous!

    http://insofiashoes.blogspot.pt

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thank you Sofia!

  • Kristen
    July 30, 2012

    I was the same way with my blog. I didn’t tell anyone except a few close friends. I felt weird about taking pictures of myself (like i was something special), but it was just fun and that’s why I kept doing it. Great outfit….love your blog! Love for you to check mine out and following if you like. Following you!

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thanks so much Kristen! Will definitely check out your blog!

  • Paula
    July 30, 2012

    You look beautiful, love everything about this outfit.
    I actually told my friends, but no one from work knows that I have a blog. It’s my little secret 🙂

    xoxo
    Paula
    Blush-paula.blogspot.com

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Totally agree, I really don’t think it’s a good idea for my co-workers to find out. Thanks Paula!

  • Brasilian Babe
    July 30, 2012

    Jenny. Well done on telling your friends. You are a braver woman than I am. 🙂

    I keep my blog a secret. The only person who knows of my blog is my husband and he shows zero interest in it *lol* A few of my friends know that I have a blog of some sort but they don’t know what my blog address is. To be honest, most of them aren’t even aware that my wardrobe is the size of a whole room or that I have a whole wall lined with shoes because I don’t really talk about it with them. :p

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Ha ha, such a good idea to not tell your friends about your shoe wall, because they would want to play “dress up” in there all of the time!!! I know I would!!! Thanks so much BB!

  • Hannah
    July 30, 2012

    gorgeous outfit! I love love love the chanel handbag too 🙂

    raspberrykitsch.com

    xx

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thanks Hannah!

  • Kacie's Kloset
    July 30, 2012

    Your blog is amazing! You should tell everyone about it!

    http://www.daisyraeboutique.com
    http://www.kacieskloset.blogspot.com

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Ha ha, thanks Kacie!

  • Fashionably Yours
    July 30, 2012

    Love that shirt! Well, I’m not to open about my blog too, but when I first started it, I once made the mistake of linking it to my personal FB profile and few of my friends got to know from there, But that’s about it, I immediately created another profile for my blog!
    Love
    Love
    Juneli from Fashionably Yours

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      I almost did the same thing with Facebook! I quickly realized that might not be the best idea. Thanks so much Juneli!

  • becks
    July 30, 2012

    love love love this outfit! the shoes are to-die-for!!

    http://www.beckspick.com

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Awww, thanks Becks!

  • megan, tfdiaries
    July 30, 2012

    love that skirt
    Xo Megan

    • Jenny
      July 30, 2012

      Thanks Megan!

  • davie+erica
    July 31, 2012

    In love with the entire look! Those shoes are total perfection! We love, love.

    ox from NYC!
    davie+erica

    LPFashionPhilosophy

    • Jenny
      July 31, 2012

      Thanks so much Davie + Erica, and thanks for visiting!

  • Alice
    July 31, 2012

    Jenny,
    I am a blog newbie too…I started my blog in June and thought about the same thing….would my friends think it’s odd? I was worried there would be negative comments about what makes me a fashion guru. Then I thought about my theme – about being happy and if fashion makes me happy than so be it. It’s been a great journey thus far and I love meeting people that share the same love for fashion.

    BTW – I love this top. I love the delicate details in it.

    Alice
    http://www.happinessatmidlife.com

    • Jenny
      July 31, 2012

      Alice, funny, that was my thought process also. I LOVE fashion and really just wanted to connect with others who have the same passion. I’m not claiming to be an expert stylist. I’m just a regular girl who loves pretty things and to dress up. Thank you so much!

  • Patricia
    July 31, 2012

    Dear Jenny, I’ve awarded you with pleasure!! I really think your style is amazing and you’re a true inspiration to me. Besides it’s very relieving to see that you’re a woman in your thirties (like me!!) and not one of those “eighteen- something –girls” who just plays with trends and has not found their own style. Your day-to-day looks are always chic, elegant and very classy. I LOVE YOUR STYLE.
    YOU DON’T HAVE TO HIDE IT ANYMORE as you must be very proud of being a fashion blogger. Say it out loud Jenny!!
    It’s a pity that you live so far from Barcelona as I would be delighted to meet you if you were closer. 😉
    Just keep posting darling!!
    xoxo
    Patricia

    http://misstoptenimage.blogspot.com

    • Jenny
      July 31, 2012

      Patricia, that is just so sweet of you to write. Thank you so much for those lovely words. I definitely know my style, but I feel like it’s ever evolving, which is fun and exciting. Hey, you never know, one day we might meet up, and I’m sure there would be no shortage of shopping and fashion talk! Thank you so much Patricia!

  • Joy shana
    July 31, 2012

    You look gorgeous and those shoes are fabulous.
    I understand what you mean by keeping it a secret, mine was different, when i made up my mind to start blogging this year,i talked to my hubby about it, he was like you love dressing up, you sleep at the mall at every given opportunity, you take pictures almost everyday, if you can handle the heat and criticism out there then do it, though i have to drag him every other day to take my pictures with him complaining for me to find a photographer #lol, i looked around other blogs and said to my self you can do this in your own way no copying or trying to be someone else, and today the feed back has been pretty amazing, my sisters and few of my friends know about it and am not afraid to let anyone know about it, i love blogging,i have made good friends online:)

    • Jenny
      July 31, 2012

      Ha ha, that sounds pretty much like my thought process in the beginning also (minus the being a good photographer part)! 🙂 My Man works much longer hours than I do, so I needed something to keep me busy that I really enjoy doing. I’ve definitely found it with blogging. Thank you so much Joy!

  • Alwand Blog
    July 31, 2012

    cute look, love the polka dot shoes and the skater skirt

    http://alwand.co.uk/index.php/fashionstreet-fashion

    • Jenny
      July 31, 2012

      Thanks so much, and thanks for visiting!

  • Fashionthroughtravel
    July 31, 2012

    You look so sweet! The outfit is really amazing, I love the shoes and the top/dress!
    I’m very open about my blog, but I was also a bit reluctant to share it on Facebook at first where all my friends could see it and judge it, but when I finally did I received amazing support from them 🙂 Congratulations for taking a step forward and telling some of your friends about it!

    • Jenny
      July 31, 2012

      Thank you so much! It’s funny, I truly thought I was the only one out there that didn’t tell people about their blog. It is so great to know that what I’m going through is totally normal!

  • danielle
    July 31, 2012

    I totally understand feeling a little weird about taking pictures and posting them. I still feel weird about it but i think it’s a fun way to share & i always keep this in dr. seuss quote in mind: “those who matter don’t mind and those who mind don’t matter.”
    p.s. – i love this top!
    thanks for stopping by my blog, i’ll be adding yours to my daily reading!
    xo
    d
    louwhatwear.com

    • Jenny
      July 31, 2012

      I LOVE that quote! I’ve never heard it, although I’m a big Dr. Seuss fan! 🙂 I have a feeling that quote will help me through some tough situations in the future. Thanks so much Danielle!

  • Marissa Joy
    July 31, 2012

    Love that skirt and those heels- so cute and feminine!

    stylebymj.blogspot.com

    • Jenny
      July 31, 2012

      Thanks so much Marissa!

  • Tamara
    July 31, 2012

    The top looks amazing, I would have never thought to tuck it into a skirt. And the skirt is so cute, my problem right now is finding skirts that fit my curve body, between the pleating being off or there is an elastic waist am having no luck with skirts this summer. Anyways you look amazing, miss you and the blog is awesome. It’s now a part of my coffee break each day, a little fashion relief, thank god!

    • Jenny
      July 31, 2012

      Ha ha, you are just the best Tam! Come visit me in Toronto and we can make it our mission to find you some skirts!! Miss you!

  • jamie
    July 31, 2012

    I am totally crushing on your shoes. I love the polka dots!! That skirt is so cute – I love that cut. I’ve seen a few bloggers with the flouncy short skirts and they are so adorable!

    The Blue Hour

    • Jenny
      July 31, 2012

      Thanks Jamie! I am addicted to full skirts like this! I have a couple and I really want to buy more!

  • Katie Frost
    July 31, 2012

    Most everyone I know is aware of the blog. I was a bit of a blabber mouth when I first started. Sometimes I wished I had waited a little while before telling everyone I ever knew. I definitely feel silly too- taking photos and posting them, but I’ve realized most people think it’s pretty cool (and some have no clue what a blog is!)

    • Jenny
      July 31, 2012

      Ha ha, thanks Katie! You’re right, most people I know don’t even read blogs!

  • Ashley
    July 31, 2012

    first i’m obsessed with this look! that dress as a top is gorgeous and probably one of my favorite things you’ve worn 🙂 second, I am the same way about attention, I turn red its awful haha, even after blogging for about 6 months I am still a little shy about it, but eventually it gets easier 🙂 you’re blog is so cute you should be proud!

    xo SideSmile,
    Ashley

    SideSmile Style Blog

    • Jenny
      July 31, 2012

      Thank you so much Ashley! You are super sweet, and I really appreciate the support!

  • still being molly
    July 31, 2012

    okay this is AMAZINGGGGGG. the outfit is absolutely stunning! and yeah, my friends and family know about the blog (sometimes i wish they didn’t) BUT, they are really supportive. i’m glad your friends are being supportive!

    • Jenny
      August 1, 2012

      Ha ha, thanks Molly! I do have pretty wonderful friends!

  • Jenny
    July 31, 2012

    Your blog is always a great inspiration and your outfits are always very elegant and beautiful, so just keep up with the great job!
    I totally understand you in this post… I’m still shy to let people know about my blog, in fact, just a few very close friends know about it and although I had linked some posts to my FB page, lately I have stopped doing it because I feel as I’m not ready to share the secret with everyone yet…
    BTW, lovely top and shoes!
    Jenny
    http://www.jensoutfitjournal.com/

    • Jenny
      August 1, 2012

      Thanks so much Jenny! It’s funny, some days I think it’s not a big deal and I’ll just put it on my personal FB page, but then I realize that if I do that, I can NEVER take it back. So until I’m 100% sure I want ALL to know, it’s definitely better to wait!

  • Alexandra
    August 1, 2012

    I’ve haven’t told any of my friends yet either!!! My sister and I write our blog together (and it’s been about three months) and we’re both hesitant to start sharing. I think our goal starting out was once we reached 100 posts we’d make the leap. We’re getting close now, but the idea of sharing it on Facebook still makes us feel a little icky, but on the flip side, it’s also one of the best ways to expose it! Good for you for taking the leap 🙂

    P.S. Love the skirt, great silhouette!

    http://www.ishi.ca

    • Jenny
      August 1, 2012

      Thanks so much Alexandra! 100 posts was my sharing point also, but I pulled the trigger a little early. I agree, it can be so scary putting yourself out there and opening yourself up to criticism.

  • Mary Ann
    August 1, 2012

    I love this Jenny – esp the heels! I, mostly, keep my blog a secret. Only close friends know about it (and I’ve been fashion blogging for 2 years now). Which is one of the main reasons I don’t have my blog on Facebook. In person, I also don’t like being the center of attention so I completely understand how you feel!

    • Jenny
      August 1, 2012

      Thanks so much Mary Ann! So glad to know this. . . thank you.

  • Marina
    August 1, 2012

    I love the skirt is absolutely Fabulous. And you’re rocking it well doll.

    <3 Marina
    Fashion.MakeUp.LifeStyle

    • Jenny
      August 1, 2012

      Awww, thanks Marina!

  • phiphis blog
    August 1, 2012

    jenny, i adore this look!! you look so polished and stylish!! what a great pair of shoes too! they’re perfect!!!

    xox

    p

    phiphisblog.com

    • Jenny
      August 2, 2012

      Thank you for the lovely comments P!!

  • Tammy Jones
    August 2, 2012

    I’m crazy about those shoes. In fact, on July 17th I devoted a blog entry to them. They look great on you!

    Tammy of “Walking in Pretty Shoes”

    • Jenny
      August 2, 2012

      Thanks Tammy! I am obsessed with them too!

  • jewel
    August 2, 2012

    Just found your blog. My new favorite

    • Jenny
      August 2, 2012

      That is so sweet! Thank you so much for visiting, Jewel!

  • Andréa
    August 2, 2012

    1. Love the shoes & outfit, like always.

    2. I was super hesitant and still am, telling people about my blog! My boyfriend really encouraged me to pursue it and he loves telling/showing people but I still get embarrassed because I am shy person, so I totally understand where you are coming from.

    -Andréa

    http://www.ohvadarling.blogspot.com

    • Jenny
      August 2, 2012

      Ha ha, that sounds like my Man! He told a couple of his friends that I had a blog, but thank goodness he didn’t tell them the name. He said he was too proud to not tell someone, which just about melted my heart. Thanks so much Andrea!

  • Lauren H
    August 2, 2012

    I just started my blog in June and have felt the same way regarding telling people. My close friends know but I have yet to put it on my personal Facebook or release it to the world. It feels too personal and special to let go of yet. So proud of you for telling those closest to you 🙂 P.S. I’m a new reader and LOVE your style 😉

    • Jenny
      August 2, 2012

      I LOVE what you said about your blog feeling too personal and special to let go of yet. That is so true! Thank you so much Lauren!

  • Victoria
    August 2, 2012

    Great outfit!!! I love your style.

    octoberchic.com

    • Jenny
      August 2, 2012

      Thanks Victoria, and thank you for commenting!

  • Suzanne
    August 2, 2012

    I just wanted to let you know that I will be featuring you in this lovely outfit for my Friday Top Five tomorrow.

    I just “discovered” you through Pink Peonies and love your style.

    Bisous
    Suzanne
    http://bisous.typepad.com/bisous/

    • Jenny
      August 2, 2012

      I sincerely thank you for featuring me tomorrow! That is just so sweet!

  • Di
    August 2, 2012

    I love this outfit. Could you tell me what the name of your lipstick is in this post? I love it!

    • Jenny
      August 2, 2012

      Thanks so much Di! I have a little bit of concealer on my lips with MAC Song & Dance lip glass on top.

  • Laura
    August 2, 2012

    I am open with my friends, not complete strangers. I keep it a secret at work as I don’t want them to think that all I do on the computer all day is blog.

    • Jenny
      August 2, 2012

      Ha ha, that’s actually a very good point! Thanks Laura!

  • Miranda
    August 2, 2012

    Ahh you wore the new Kate Spades!! I love how you styled them, you look gorgeous! That top is fabulous!

    And to answer your question – yes, all my friends and family know about my blog and are really supportive. I have no shame! Some people don’t really “get it,” and others completely love it and ask me about it all time. Have no fear, Jenny!

    • Jenny
      August 2, 2012

      Thanks so much Miranda! Ha ha, yes, you will definitely see more of these shoes!!! So glad to hear you have a strong support system! It really makes all the difference in life!

  • Diva In Me
    August 3, 2012

    Well, some friends know about my blog and some friends don’t. Correction: MANY friends don’t. Don’t think they’ll understand so I don’t bother explaining. If they find out, great! If they don’t, I’ll keep it as that =)
    You look great in the black skirt. It’s a great skirt. You can style it in so many ways =)

    http://diva-in-me.blogspot.com

    • Jenny
      August 3, 2012

      Thank you so much! Yes, I’m taking your approach now. . .I’m not telling anyone else, but if they find out, that’s totally fine.

  • Rachel Ashley
    August 3, 2012

    I can totally relate, to being shy to tell people about your blog. I have had mine a little over a year and I didn’t tell very many people at all. I was too shy to say anything! But I have to say I love your style and you have a fab blog! I am glad I found it and plan on stopping by more!

    XO,
    Rachel Ashley
    Fashionably Living

    • Jenny
      August 3, 2012

      Thank you so much for your super sweet comments and support Rachel!

  • Jane
    August 10, 2012

    First I want to say is that you may be new to the blogging scene but you are obviously doing something right since you have 190 comments! I have never had so many and I have been blogging/creating content for years.

    When I first started my site (torontoshopoholic.com) I kept it a secret for a little while and then when it was built up a bit I told people. Everyone has been supportive even if they don’t understand it most of the time.

    Looking forward to following you!

    • Jenny
      August 10, 2012

      Awww, thank you so much Jane! Well, I wish I had 190 comments, but I only have half of that because I respond to every comment and that counts as 1. Although, I am so overwhelmed by the amount of incredible support I have received since I started blogging. The whole experience has been amazing so far! Thank you so much for your support as well!

  • Di - City and Burbs
    August 17, 2012

    Jenny, you’re too cute for words. Let’s start with the fact that you have incredible fashion sense and I’m so glad that you decided to start blogging and giving us a chance to be inspired by you! Second, as soon as your pictures loaded, the first thing I saw were those UH-MAZING shoes. Truth be told, I really wish the screen would open up and I could just grab them and keep them for myself…LOL. (I’m buying them ASAP). Third, I know exactly how you feel. I tried to keep my blog a secret for a while, not so much from my friends but from the people I work with. After a couple of months someone found the blog and it spread like wild fire…my Director has me on his reader!!! Many people at work now come and ask me for fashion advice and I LOVE it! It makes my stressful job so much better 🙂
    Keep up the great work!
    xx,
    Di
    http://cityandburbsblog.com

    • Jenny
      August 17, 2012

      Ha ha, you are too sweet for words, Di! 🙂 That’s so awesome that your co-workers ask you for fashion advice! You must be the queen fashionista at work!!!

  • Jordan
    August 29, 2012

    I sincerely think this is my favorite ensemble. So chic.

    BTW… no one knows that I blog. Maybe one day?

    http://theleatherskirt.blogspot.com/

    • Jenny
      August 29, 2012

      That is just so nice Jordan! Thank you so much! Hey, maybe one day. . .